I thought it was a formality I should finally take care of.
I kept asking the nurse who took me upstairs at the Margaret Sanger Center in the East Village for a second blood test to confirm the rapid test result.
He often gets as many as 100 calls a day, which invariably end with the same question. " It is a question which some people might find offensive, but Michael takes it in his stride.
He runs Nigeria's first dating agency for people with HIV-AIDS. " reads the graffiti which - complete with his telephone number - he has sprayed on walls, fences and stonework throughout the Nigerian capital of Abuja. The first time he picked up his spray can was in 2012. But once a woman reaches 30 or 35, then menopause starts to kick in and life can become traumatic," Michael said.
We made complex weekday dinners to distract ourselves from the fact that we were both pretty bored with each other.
grown up, because I had never even been tested for HIV at my yearly checkup at Planned Parenthood, where I went for primary care.
But one day, randomly, I added the HIV rapid test to the list of things to do before intake to my pap smear appointment.
These days everybody in Nigeria seems to be talking about Michael's agency. He'd already been visiting people with HIV in hospital. "When I looked into their faces, I caught myself thinking this is no life for them and I wondered how I could help." Women under pressure to marry The official figure for the number of people with HIV-AIDS in Nigeria is 3.5 million, but the real figure is probably twice or three times as high. Yet women in Nigerian society are under pressure to find a husband and get married when they are young. In many African cultures, a marriage without children isn't a proper marriage.
Those who know they are infected generally keep this knowledge to themselves. 35-year-old Gloria is one of the women whom Michael has been able to help.
As with many other partners who are dealing with chronic illness, having a relationship with an HIV-positive person means living with much uncertainty.
This can destroy event the strongest of relationships.